"Officially" christmas in the Philippines starts on December 16, which is the start of the simbang gabi. Unofficially, it starts right after all saint's day, when the malls put up the xmas decors and start playing xmas tunes to entice shoppers to buy the presents early. Even the TV networks get into the act and start with their own version of the Christmas countdown during those news programs. Only in the Philippines where you can see news reporting with a touch of commercialism!
Tomorrow is the 1st of December, which means that it's 24 days before Christmas, 31 days before the New Year and only 17 days before the offical start of xmas vacation, parties, traffic, shopping and all the food you can eat.
Tuesday, November 30, 2004
Monday, November 29, 2004
Thursday, November 25, 2004
fun task
I bloghopped and got this doc emer (http://www.dr-emer.tk/). You might want to try this for fun. Any form of levity these days is good for your health.
(A) First, recommend to me:1. a movie 2. a book 3. a musical artist, song, or album
(B) I want everyone who reads this to ASK ME 3 QUESTIONS, no more, no less. Ask me anything you want.
(C) Then I want you to go to your journal, copy and paste this allowing your friends to ask you anything; say that you stole it from me.
(A) First, recommend to me:1. a movie 2. a book 3. a musical artist, song, or album
(B) I want everyone who reads this to ASK ME 3 QUESTIONS, no more, no less. Ask me anything you want.
(C) Then I want you to go to your journal, copy and paste this allowing your friends to ask you anything; say that you stole it from me.
Wednesday, November 24, 2004
wish list
1. a new celphone
2. books (the life of pi, a dan brown novel, the new sidney sheldon book, etc)
3. start on a diet (eating the right stuff)
4. a day at the farm
5. new shoes
6. a day at the spa
7. to be able to visit my siblings
8. a new and better job (as well as better compensation)
2. books (the life of pi, a dan brown novel, the new sidney sheldon book, etc)
3. start on a diet (eating the right stuff)
4. a day at the farm
5. new shoes
6. a day at the spa
7. to be able to visit my siblings
8. a new and better job (as well as better compensation)
Tuesday, November 23, 2004
the real me
F:
Your Beauty lies
in Contradiction. Controversial, unpredictable, and
never what anyone expects.
You appearance and your personality are two
opposite things. Even your
appearance sends different signals to different
people. To some you may look
innocent and sweet, to others you look mysterious
and intimidating at the same
time. No one ever knows what to expect with you.
You are a little bit of
everything all mixed together. You can be watching
the football game with the
guys one minute and the next out shopping at the
mall. You seem to be almost a
different person every time you meet someone, but
at the same time you know
exactly who you are and there is always that one
thing that makes you you. You
enjoy keeping people guessing and people love how
completely unpredictable you
are.
Some Things
That Represent You:
Element:
Fire, Water Animal: Chameleon Color:
Dark Tones, Light
Tones Song: Everything by Alanis Morriesette
Expression:
Half-smile
Gemstone:
Opal Mythological Creature: Gryphon,
Half-breeds Sign:
Gemini Planet: Mars Hair Color: Red
Eye Color:
Brown
Quote:
"Appearances can be deceiving."
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Your so cute anyone would think your cute. Even the
grown ups:) Probaly any boy would run up to you
with flowers and cute stuffed animals like
you;) Just look at you. Your adorable:)
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20's You are thinking more clearly than most
people... you can see the real world as it is,
you don't live in this fantasy place anymore
but you are not very mature, you are just fine,
perfect! :)
. What is you inner age?
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rainy days and monday
It has been raining steadily since Saturday, and try as I will, I can’t seem to shake the feeling that today, will be a lousy day. First of all, who would want to get out of a warm comfy bed and brave the traffic, rain and all the miserable souls who need to be in the office before 8am? Second, braving the rain means making more effort to get dressed so that one will not be completely drenched by the time one gets to the office, and third, wouldn’t it be better to just stay at home with a hot cup of chicken soup or hot chocolate reading a good book? What ever it is, it looks like this Monday will be terrible.
My prediction came true… traffic was bad, everyone in a foul mood, and to top it all, I was late for the first time in months! Things just couldn’t get any better! What will the day bring? Help!
My prediction came true… traffic was bad, everyone in a foul mood, and to top it all, I was late for the first time in months! Things just couldn’t get any better! What will the day bring? Help!
Sunday, November 21, 2004
an ode to a companion
To the one person who have to power to make me happy and the power to hurt me the most;
To the one person who can make me smile inspite of all the worries in world, my one-person cheering squad;
To the one person who takes me back and hugs me close inspite of all the trouble I cause;
I say thank you and I love you
To the one person who can make me smile inspite of all the worries in world, my one-person cheering squad;
To the one person who takes me back and hugs me close inspite of all the trouble I cause;
I say thank you and I love you
Saturday, November 20, 2004
pleasant surprise
Just when I thought you have forgotten, you do something that conveys you planned this all along… that you knew about it and was just waiting for the right time to say it.
Just when I am about to thrown in the towel and say “that’s it! I can’t take the *#@* anymore,”, you do something so commonplace that it melts my heart.
With a phone call, you were able to dispel my fears and worries; with a touch you were able to convey a feeling so strong that it dissolves any doubts. Your warm embrace evokes feelings of home and love, of being safe. To be with you, is to be protected and loved.
You are a grown-up with an inner child trapped inside, a person who seems so unaffected and indifferent but whose deepest desire is to be loved deeply and truthfully.
You never cease to amaze me. I am truly thankful to have you in my life.
Just when I am about to thrown in the towel and say “that’s it! I can’t take the *#@* anymore,”, you do something so commonplace that it melts my heart.
With a phone call, you were able to dispel my fears and worries; with a touch you were able to convey a feeling so strong that it dissolves any doubts. Your warm embrace evokes feelings of home and love, of being safe. To be with you, is to be protected and loved.
You are a grown-up with an inner child trapped inside, a person who seems so unaffected and indifferent but whose deepest desire is to be loved deeply and truthfully.
You never cease to amaze me. I am truly thankful to have you in my life.
Friday, November 19, 2004
one day to go...
one more day, and its TGIF. hahaha... i can't wait for the weekend to begin... not that i have plans but because i need the free days to think about stuff. I do hope to find the answers soon - very soon. I might just make that decision sooner than i want to and i am giving myself a deadline, after that, who knows! all i know is I want to start the year by turning over a new leaf.
Thursday, November 18, 2004
i am more like...
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storm brewing
after all the love and promises, what next?
after the silence, do you expect everything to stay the way it was?
if trust and respect a two way street, how does one manage to give to more than once and others only once?
why is it always an uneasy silence before the storm?
after the silence, do you expect everything to stay the way it was?
if trust and respect a two way street, how does one manage to give to more than once and others only once?
why is it always an uneasy silence before the storm?
down and out
i am still disappointed with what someone dear to me has done... i do hope that i get to hear from that person soon.
Wednesday, November 17, 2004
doubts
just when i thought i did the right thing in trusting a friend again, he seems to be proving me wrong... i hope and pray that i'm right in trusting him again.
Tuesday, November 16, 2004
mirrors of the soul
“The depth of a friendship – how much it means to us… depends, at least in part, upon how many parts of ourselves a friend sees, shares and validates” – Lilian Rubin
Friends are not only there for us during the good times, but real friends stay with us through the bad and rough times of our lives. They are not only essential for coping with our day-to-day frustrations and heartaches or sharing private jokes, they help us go through a crisis, and help us grow as human beings. Friends tell us much of who we are - what we value in life, what we believe in, where we are in our lives and what we deem should be changed. Indeed, they are part of us as we are of them. They are in fact a mirror of who we are.
It is not to say that families don't have a great support system, they do, but one must realize that friends have a support systems uniquely their own.
Relationship among peers is extremely important among teenagers and young adults. They are just some things and issues that one can tell their friends and not their family. A bond among peers is extremely important as we need other people who can relate to what is happening in our life, we need them as models and models whose circumstances are closer to our own. We look at them as guide of who we once were, who we are and who we will become. We look at friends and their experiences and heed their advice, we learn from our mistakes as much as we learn from theirs, we look through experiences to start defining ourselves and how we value ourselves as human beings.
In life, one meets a lot of people... Some mere acquaintances, others friends for life. The degree of friendship one has depends on how much of us we are willing to share with them. Of how much we see in them. While it is sometimes true that opposites attract, it is more probable that people whose degree of similarity in characteristics, likes, belief and values are drawn closer. These pave the way for greater understanding and better bonding. The depth of friendship greatly depends on how much of yourself you are willing to share.
While there are friends what we might loose touch with through time and distance, we must be grateful for the memories that we have, the good and the bad times shared and the lessons we learned from them.
Friends are not only there for us during the good times, but real friends stay with us through the bad and rough times of our lives. They are not only essential for coping with our day-to-day frustrations and heartaches or sharing private jokes, they help us go through a crisis, and help us grow as human beings. Friends tell us much of who we are - what we value in life, what we believe in, where we are in our lives and what we deem should be changed. Indeed, they are part of us as we are of them. They are in fact a mirror of who we are.
It is not to say that families don't have a great support system, they do, but one must realize that friends have a support systems uniquely their own.
Relationship among peers is extremely important among teenagers and young adults. They are just some things and issues that one can tell their friends and not their family. A bond among peers is extremely important as we need other people who can relate to what is happening in our life, we need them as models and models whose circumstances are closer to our own. We look at them as guide of who we once were, who we are and who we will become. We look at friends and their experiences and heed their advice, we learn from our mistakes as much as we learn from theirs, we look through experiences to start defining ourselves and how we value ourselves as human beings.
In life, one meets a lot of people... Some mere acquaintances, others friends for life. The degree of friendship one has depends on how much of us we are willing to share with them. Of how much we see in them. While it is sometimes true that opposites attract, it is more probable that people whose degree of similarity in characteristics, likes, belief and values are drawn closer. These pave the way for greater understanding and better bonding. The depth of friendship greatly depends on how much of yourself you are willing to share.
While there are friends what we might loose touch with through time and distance, we must be grateful for the memories that we have, the good and the bad times shared and the lessons we learned from them.
Saturday, November 13, 2004
Friday, November 12, 2004
hurray!
can't wait for the week to end! hurray for the three day week end! have the weekend all planned out...attending a bridal shower, having dinner with an old friend, movies, shopping and more (hopefully i can squeeze in cooking that choco fudge i recently downloaded)... i just can't wait
Thursday, November 11, 2004
thoughts on population control
Just like the question of which came first, the chicken or the egg... I wonder if poverty contributes to increasing population or increasing population contributes to poverty?
The Philippines has one of the highest birth rates in the world (2.36% annually) as well as one of the highest incidence rates of poverty (34%) in Asia and the world. If the annual growth rate continues at 2.36 percent, then the Philippine population is expected to double in approximately 29 years. This means from 76.5 million in 2000, Philippine population will be 153 million! This year, we are nearing the 90 million threshold.
In the Philippines, population control is such a sensitive topic. The Department of Health (DOH), backed by the President is advocating the natural family planning method, deterring the use of artificial control methods as it will anger the Catholic Church. In fact, the government is vague on the issue of how to control the rising population.
According to the news, the DOH still has 111 million pesos worth of contraceptives stashed in its warehouse. My question is, WHY is it hidden / stashed when health centers, NGO clinics are in such dire need of the supply? WHY can’t the government advocate natural family planning along with artificial methods? It’s ok promoting natural method as long as education / information on this is available and accurate. But the fact remains, people are still in the dark as to what natural method really is and how it works.
I believe that an aggressive information-campaign drive and the active participation of the local government units and other sectors concerned down to the barangay level is the key to addressing population control. Now poverty is another matter.
The Philippines has one of the highest birth rates in the world (2.36% annually) as well as one of the highest incidence rates of poverty (34%) in Asia and the world. If the annual growth rate continues at 2.36 percent, then the Philippine population is expected to double in approximately 29 years. This means from 76.5 million in 2000, Philippine population will be 153 million! This year, we are nearing the 90 million threshold.
In the Philippines, population control is such a sensitive topic. The Department of Health (DOH), backed by the President is advocating the natural family planning method, deterring the use of artificial control methods as it will anger the Catholic Church. In fact, the government is vague on the issue of how to control the rising population.
According to the news, the DOH still has 111 million pesos worth of contraceptives stashed in its warehouse. My question is, WHY is it hidden / stashed when health centers, NGO clinics are in such dire need of the supply? WHY can’t the government advocate natural family planning along with artificial methods? It’s ok promoting natural method as long as education / information on this is available and accurate. But the fact remains, people are still in the dark as to what natural method really is and how it works.
I believe that an aggressive information-campaign drive and the active participation of the local government units and other sectors concerned down to the barangay level is the key to addressing population control. Now poverty is another matter.
Wednesday, November 10, 2004
fantasy
Our country really does live in a fantasy world!
Switch on your TV sets and tune in to any of the two leading networks (2 or 7) during primetime weekdays, and you will find yourself immersed in the fantasy world of "marina" or "mulawin", two of the most popular programs of the networks. I guess the Filipino people are so feed up with the daily problems besetting the country - high cost of living, the shrinking purchasing power of the peso, mass lay-offs, etc- that they are in dire need of a fantasy world. For thirty minutes or so, people are tuning in and getting lost in these world of mermaids and winged creatures. They are wishing, that they too, would overcome problems and hardships with the help of magic and that true love does indeed conquer all.
Now the government seems to be bent on conjuring up the biggest illusion of them all!
In September, the President announced that the country is in deep financial crisis... but right after she said that all levels of government should conduct austerity measures, she flew to China for an offical trip. This alone will not get the ire of the people, but she brought the WHOLE family along... i don't just mean her husband and children, the grandchildren (ages 1 and below), daugthers-in-law and nanny went along too! Now how's that for austerity measures!
There IS NO austerity program in the government... the lower level employees feel it (no bonus, no overtime pay, no salary increase) but for top level management, it's, for lack of a better term, monkey business as usual.
I mean, if there truly is an austerity program in place, why should the government transfer the office of the Department of Agrarian Reform to Iloilo, the Department of Agriculture to Davao, the Department of Tourism to Cebu? These transfer will entail COST! According to reports DAR will spend P400 million to move with the total expenses hitting Php 1 billion! Now remember, this is just ONE department... it does not even take into account the transport / airfare the Heads of the Department need just to attend the weekly cabinet meeting in Manila, nor does it take into account the logistics involved in communicating and transacting business between agencies and department. Instead of doing this, WHY can't the government improve rural and regional services?
Now, barely three months after declaring that the country is in financial crisis, the President announed that the country has made a fiscal turn-around. In an article in the Philippine star the President insisted that the country is definitely out of the critical stage of the fiscal crisis. She attributed this to the people’s unified response to her calls to address the crisis at the soonest possible time. Unless a miracle happend while we were all asleep or going-on with our daily routine, i imagine that what she said is all a lie. I mean, hello! When did this happen? Is the purchasing power of the pesos higher or lower than it was three months ago?
Another illusion is the food coupons as solutions to hunger and poverty. Right after the SWS released its survey results that 15% of the population is going hungry, the government had this crazy knee-jerk reaction of giving out food coupons to address this problem. This would mean that government is going to spend about P5 billion - yup billion- a month for this program.
Yesterday (November 8), the government kicked off its supplemental feeding program by distributing 1-kilo of fortified rice to around 1,700 Grades 1 and 2 students at the Cainta Elementary School in Rizal. Under the "Food for School" program, a total of 49,130 Grades 1 and 2 students from poor families in selected schools will be taking home 1-kilo of rice daily until the end of the school year on March 2005. The rice subsidy is part of the government's response to the SWS survey that showed more filipinos are going hungry. Question is, what happen's after the five month is up? This temporary remedy does not address the main issue!
For a country that is in deep financial crisis, this short term solution could cause more dissatisfaction and make the program open to corruption. Where should the government get the funding for this ambitious project? Isn't it cutting down on its expenditures? and why, why hasn't the President giving up a significant sum of her discretionary funds? Instead of setting an example on austerity, she is the first one to go against it? Leading by example, she is not.
This is what is wrong with our country, instead of having medium to long term solutions to a problem, we tend to go for short term solution. Instead of addressing WHY the problem came about, the government tends to give dole-outs.
Instead of making the country appealing to investors to generate more jobs, the government and the politicians are busy "investigating" issues that they don't even get to resolve. They are more concerned with their "image" and "PR" than addressing the huge problems of the country.
Let us address population control, and take a stand, instead of fearing what the church will say. Let us address decongesting the metropolis and giving farmers and fisher-folks better options, technologies and subsidies to address not only food security but more importantly addressing rural poverty and hunger.
Instead of "papogi" pronouncements, and spinning webs of lies, why can't the government just shape up and do its job? Just shape up and do its job?
Switch on your TV sets and tune in to any of the two leading networks (2 or 7) during primetime weekdays, and you will find yourself immersed in the fantasy world of "marina" or "mulawin", two of the most popular programs of the networks. I guess the Filipino people are so feed up with the daily problems besetting the country - high cost of living, the shrinking purchasing power of the peso, mass lay-offs, etc- that they are in dire need of a fantasy world. For thirty minutes or so, people are tuning in and getting lost in these world of mermaids and winged creatures. They are wishing, that they too, would overcome problems and hardships with the help of magic and that true love does indeed conquer all.
Now the government seems to be bent on conjuring up the biggest illusion of them all!
In September, the President announced that the country is in deep financial crisis... but right after she said that all levels of government should conduct austerity measures, she flew to China for an offical trip. This alone will not get the ire of the people, but she brought the WHOLE family along... i don't just mean her husband and children, the grandchildren (ages 1 and below), daugthers-in-law and nanny went along too! Now how's that for austerity measures!
There IS NO austerity program in the government... the lower level employees feel it (no bonus, no overtime pay, no salary increase) but for top level management, it's, for lack of a better term, monkey business as usual.
I mean, if there truly is an austerity program in place, why should the government transfer the office of the Department of Agrarian Reform to Iloilo, the Department of Agriculture to Davao, the Department of Tourism to Cebu? These transfer will entail COST! According to reports DAR will spend P400 million to move with the total expenses hitting Php 1 billion! Now remember, this is just ONE department... it does not even take into account the transport / airfare the Heads of the Department need just to attend the weekly cabinet meeting in Manila, nor does it take into account the logistics involved in communicating and transacting business between agencies and department. Instead of doing this, WHY can't the government improve rural and regional services?
Now, barely three months after declaring that the country is in financial crisis, the President announed that the country has made a fiscal turn-around. In an article in the Philippine star the President insisted that the country is definitely out of the critical stage of the fiscal crisis. She attributed this to the people’s unified response to her calls to address the crisis at the soonest possible time. Unless a miracle happend while we were all asleep or going-on with our daily routine, i imagine that what she said is all a lie. I mean, hello! When did this happen? Is the purchasing power of the pesos higher or lower than it was three months ago?
Another illusion is the food coupons as solutions to hunger and poverty. Right after the SWS released its survey results that 15% of the population is going hungry, the government had this crazy knee-jerk reaction of giving out food coupons to address this problem. This would mean that government is going to spend about P5 billion - yup billion- a month for this program.
Yesterday (November 8), the government kicked off its supplemental feeding program by distributing 1-kilo of fortified rice to around 1,700 Grades 1 and 2 students at the Cainta Elementary School in Rizal. Under the "Food for School" program, a total of 49,130 Grades 1 and 2 students from poor families in selected schools will be taking home 1-kilo of rice daily until the end of the school year on March 2005. The rice subsidy is part of the government's response to the SWS survey that showed more filipinos are going hungry. Question is, what happen's after the five month is up? This temporary remedy does not address the main issue!
For a country that is in deep financial crisis, this short term solution could cause more dissatisfaction and make the program open to corruption. Where should the government get the funding for this ambitious project? Isn't it cutting down on its expenditures? and why, why hasn't the President giving up a significant sum of her discretionary funds? Instead of setting an example on austerity, she is the first one to go against it? Leading by example, she is not.
This is what is wrong with our country, instead of having medium to long term solutions to a problem, we tend to go for short term solution. Instead of addressing WHY the problem came about, the government tends to give dole-outs.
Instead of making the country appealing to investors to generate more jobs, the government and the politicians are busy "investigating" issues that they don't even get to resolve. They are more concerned with their "image" and "PR" than addressing the huge problems of the country.
Let us address population control, and take a stand, instead of fearing what the church will say. Let us address decongesting the metropolis and giving farmers and fisher-folks better options, technologies and subsidies to address not only food security but more importantly addressing rural poverty and hunger.
Instead of "papogi" pronouncements, and spinning webs of lies, why can't the government just shape up and do its job? Just shape up and do its job?
Tuesday, November 09, 2004
personality test
surfing the Net, i chanced upon this personality test and i just can't resist taking it. below is the result:
Take Free Big Five Personality Test
personality tests by similarminds.com
according to the site: The Big Five is currently the most accepted personality model in the scientific community. The Big Five emerged from the work of multiple independent scientists/researchers starting in the 1950s who using different techniques obtained similar results. Those results were that there are five distinct personality traits/dimensions. The Big Five is the most proven personality test in the academic research community presently. It is composed of 5 factors - open-mindedness, conscientiousness, agreeableness, emotional stability, and extroversion.
it's kind of enlightening isn't it? harharhar
to take this test and other personality test (Enneagram Test, Myers-Briggs-Jung Test, Right-Left Brain test, etc) check out similarminds.com
| Big Five Test Results |
| Extroversion (56%) moderately high which suggests you are, at times, overly talkative, outgoing, sociable and interacting at the expense of developing your own individual interests and internally based identity. Friendliness (52%) medium which suggests you are moderately kind natured, trusting, and helpful while still maintaining your own interests. Orderliness (66%) moderately high which suggests you are, at times, overly organized, reliable, neat, and hard working at the expense of flexibility, efficiency, spontaneity, and fun. Emotional Stability (50%) medium which suggests you are moderately relaxed, calm, secure, and optimistic. Openmindedness (46%) medium which suggests you are moderately intellectual, curious, and imaginative. |
personality tests by similarminds.com
according to the site: The Big Five is currently the most accepted personality model in the scientific community. The Big Five emerged from the work of multiple independent scientists/researchers starting in the 1950s who using different techniques obtained similar results. Those results were that there are five distinct personality traits/dimensions. The Big Five is the most proven personality test in the academic research community presently. It is composed of 5 factors - open-mindedness, conscientiousness, agreeableness, emotional stability, and extroversion.
it's kind of enlightening isn't it? harharhar
to take this test and other personality test (Enneagram Test, Myers-Briggs-Jung Test, Right-Left Brain test, etc) check out similarminds.com
positive outlook
I may be getting old(er) but i don't look my age. :)
An easy smile and a positive oulook can not only uplift the spirit, it does wonders for your appearance too.
According to realage.com Positive thinking may help older people remain physically active and strong, whereas a negative mental attitude may quickly lead to cognitive deterioration, a new study concluded. To see the glass as half full, spend time contemplating the good things in your life and try to avoid repeatedly mulling over negative experiences. It's RealAge Benefit: Taking care of your emotional health and well-being can make your RealAge up to 16 years younger.
Remember, it takes more facial muscles to frown than to smile. In fact, a scowl can contribute to more facial lines and wrinkles. A positive attitude, not only makes you prettier, it makes you younger too.
In fact the realage tip goes on to say: Positive thinking appears to boost health by enhancing immune system function. A positive disposition also may help people avoid mental conditions that have been associated with poor health choices, such as depression and anxiety. If you find yourself struggling to remain positive, consider writing your worries down and then promising to forget about them for the rest of the day. Return to your list when you have time to work on positive solutions to your problems. Also, finding enjoyable ways to pass your free time could give you less time to fret and more positive experiences to remember later on.
Now, wouldn't that make you want to start your day with a smile?
An easy smile and a positive oulook can not only uplift the spirit, it does wonders for your appearance too.
According to realage.com Positive thinking may help older people remain physically active and strong, whereas a negative mental attitude may quickly lead to cognitive deterioration, a new study concluded. To see the glass as half full, spend time contemplating the good things in your life and try to avoid repeatedly mulling over negative experiences. It's RealAge Benefit: Taking care of your emotional health and well-being can make your RealAge up to 16 years younger.
Remember, it takes more facial muscles to frown than to smile. In fact, a scowl can contribute to more facial lines and wrinkles. A positive attitude, not only makes you prettier, it makes you younger too.
In fact the realage tip goes on to say: Positive thinking appears to boost health by enhancing immune system function. A positive disposition also may help people avoid mental conditions that have been associated with poor health choices, such as depression and anxiety. If you find yourself struggling to remain positive, consider writing your worries down and then promising to forget about them for the rest of the day. Return to your list when you have time to work on positive solutions to your problems. Also, finding enjoyable ways to pass your free time could give you less time to fret and more positive experiences to remember later on.
Now, wouldn't that make you want to start your day with a smile?
another one bites the dust
This weekend I received news that a friend decided to bid single-hood goodbye and say hello to wedded bliss. Yup, just when I thought I could not get enough of weddings, I learned that a friend is getting married soon – and I mean real soon!
What’s with 2004 and the number 29 that makes people in my age group (anyone with student number ’92 and above?) go crazy and take the plunge? Is it the inevitable wrinkles that we know will be upon us soon? Is it realizing that we are past our prime, that our metabolism is getting slower and we just can’t eat the same food as before without getting a bit plump? YES, we are getting older, but does it also mean that we should necessarily settle down?
Another reality check that indeed I am getting older (albeit not necessarily wiser) is the fact that two of my friends recently gave birth to super cute baby boys. While I admire their commitment and strength (hey, it’s not easy bringing a child into this world – especially in this economic times), I can not see myself having one soon.
Babies and marriage is a BIG responsibility. You think beyond yourself, you are responsible not only for yourself but for the well-being of those around you. As of now, all I can think of is me, myself and I – my earnings are just enough for me to live by, I can’t for the life of me, imagine how I can manage having a family with a measly income. But, maybe, when I do get to have a family, my priorities will change. As of now, my priorities are having enough moohlah to pay my monthly celphone, credit card and house dues.
I admire my friends for starting a family. I know that age is a factor (hey our biological clock is ticking!) but maturity, love, commitment and respect are factors too. Congrats and best wishes guys! All the best.
Hmmm, as of last count, there has been 5 weddings, and 2 new babies. What will next year’s statistics be? Who will succumb to the BIG COMMITMENT?
What’s with 2004 and the number 29 that makes people in my age group (anyone with student number ’92 and above?) go crazy and take the plunge? Is it the inevitable wrinkles that we know will be upon us soon? Is it realizing that we are past our prime, that our metabolism is getting slower and we just can’t eat the same food as before without getting a bit plump? YES, we are getting older, but does it also mean that we should necessarily settle down?
Another reality check that indeed I am getting older (albeit not necessarily wiser) is the fact that two of my friends recently gave birth to super cute baby boys. While I admire their commitment and strength (hey, it’s not easy bringing a child into this world – especially in this economic times), I can not see myself having one soon.
Babies and marriage is a BIG responsibility. You think beyond yourself, you are responsible not only for yourself but for the well-being of those around you. As of now, all I can think of is me, myself and I – my earnings are just enough for me to live by, I can’t for the life of me, imagine how I can manage having a family with a measly income. But, maybe, when I do get to have a family, my priorities will change. As of now, my priorities are having enough moohlah to pay my monthly celphone, credit card and house dues.
I admire my friends for starting a family. I know that age is a factor (hey our biological clock is ticking!) but maturity, love, commitment and respect are factors too. Congrats and best wishes guys! All the best.
Hmmm, as of last count, there has been 5 weddings, and 2 new babies. What will next year’s statistics be? Who will succumb to the BIG COMMITMENT?
Monday, November 08, 2004
i'm a 48
got this test from a friend... thought it's an interesting look into our personality.
Dr. Phil scored (55) ----he did this test on Oprah, she got a (38) Some folks pay a lot of money to find this stuff out.
Read on, this is very interesting! Don't be overly sensitive! The following is pretty accurate and it only takes 2 minutes.
Take this test for yourself and send it to your friends. The person who sent it placed their score in the subject box. Please do the same before forwarding to your friends. Don't peek but begin the test as you scroll down and answer.
Answers are for who you are now...... not who you were in the past.
Have pen or pencil and paper ready. This is a real test given by the Human Relations Dept. at many of the major corporations today. It helps them get better insight concerning their employees and prospective employees.
It's only 10 simple questions, so...... grab a pencil and paper, keeping track of your letter answers. Make sure to change the subject of the e-mail to show YOUR total. When you are finished, forward this to everyone you know, and also send it to the person who sent this to you. Make sure to put YOUR score in the subject box. =========================================================== 1. When do you feel your best? a) in the morning b) during the afternoon and early evening c) late at night
2. You usually walk... a) fairly fast, with long steps b) fairly fast, with little steps c) less fast head up, looking the world in the face d) less fast, head down e) very slowly
3. When talking to people you... a) stand with your arms folded b) have your hands clasped c) have one or both your hands on your hips d) touch or push the person to whom you are talking e) play with your ear, touch your chin, or smooth your hair
4. When relaxing, you sit with... a) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side b) your legs crossed c) your legs stretched out or straight d) one leg curled under you
5. When something really amuses you, you react with... a) big appreciated laugh b) a laugh, but not a loud one c) a quiet chuckle d) a sheepish smile
6. When you go to a party or social gathering you... a) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you b) make a quiet entrance, looking around for someone you know c) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay unnoticed
7. You're working very hard, concentrating hard, and you're interrupted...... a) welcome the break b) feel extremely irritated c) vary between these two extremes
8. Which of the following colors do you like most? a) Red or orange b) black c) yellow or light blue d) green e) dark blue or purple f) white g) brown or gray
9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few moments before going to sleep.... a) stretched out on your back b) stretched out face down on your stomach c) on your side, slightly curled d) with your head on one arm e) with your head under the covers
10. You often dream that you are... a) falling b) fighting or struggling c) searching for something or somebody d) flying or floating e) you usually have dreamless sleep f) your dreams are always pleasant =========================================================== POINTS FOR EACH ANSWER:
1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6
2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2 (e) 1
3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6
4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1
5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2
6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2
7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4
8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d) 4 (e) 3 (f) 2 (g) 1
9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 (d) 2 (e) 1
10. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1
Now add up the total number of points. DON'T LOOK BEYOND THIS UNTIL YOUR HAVE COMPLETED AND SCORED YOURSELF. =========================================================== OVER 60 POINTS: Others see you as someone they should "handle with care." You're seen as vain, self-centered, and who is extremely dominant. Others may admire you, wishing they could be more like you, but don't always trust you, hesitating to become too deeply involved with you.
51 TO 60 POINTS: Others see you as an exciting, highly volatile, rather impulsive personality; a natural leader, who's quick to make decisions, though not always the right ones. They see you as bold and venturesome, someone who will try anything once; someone who takes chances and enjoys an adventure. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement you radiate.
41 TO 50 POINTS: Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing, practical, and always interesting; someone who's constantly in the center of attention, but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to their head. They also see you as kind, considerate, and understanding; someone who'll always cheer them up and help them out.
31 TO 40 POINTS: Others see you as sensible, cautious, careful, practical. They see you as clever, gifted, or talented, but modest. Not a person who makes friends too quickly or easily, but someone who's extremely loyal to friends you do make and who expect the same loyalty in return. Those who really get to know you realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your friends, but equally that it takes you a long time to get over it, if that trust is ever broken.
21 TO 30 POINTS: Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. They see you as very cautious, extremely careful, slow and steady; It would really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur of the moment, expecting you to examine everything carefully from every angle and then, usually decide against it. They think this reaction is caused partly by your careful nature.
UNDER 21 POINTS: People think you are shy, nervous, and indecisive, someone who needs looking after, who always wants someone else to make the decisions; who doesn't want to get involved with anyone or anything! They see you as a worrier who always sees problems that don't exist. Some people think you're boring. Only those who know you well know that you aren't.
I don't know if this test is for real or not; if its realiable, but it was fun answering the questions.
Dr. Phil scored (55) ----he did this test on Oprah, she got a (38) Some folks pay a lot of money to find this stuff out.
Read on, this is very interesting! Don't be overly sensitive! The following is pretty accurate and it only takes 2 minutes.
Take this test for yourself and send it to your friends. The person who sent it placed their score in the subject box. Please do the same before forwarding to your friends. Don't peek but begin the test as you scroll down and answer.
Answers are for who you are now...... not who you were in the past.
Have pen or pencil and paper ready. This is a real test given by the Human Relations Dept. at many of the major corporations today. It helps them get better insight concerning their employees and prospective employees.
It's only 10 simple questions, so...... grab a pencil and paper, keeping track of your letter answers. Make sure to change the subject of the e-mail to show YOUR total. When you are finished, forward this to everyone you know, and also send it to the person who sent this to you. Make sure to put YOUR score in the subject box. =========================================================== 1. When do you feel your best? a) in the morning b) during the afternoon and early evening c) late at night
2. You usually walk... a) fairly fast, with long steps b) fairly fast, with little steps c) less fast head up, looking the world in the face d) less fast, head down e) very slowly
3. When talking to people you... a) stand with your arms folded b) have your hands clasped c) have one or both your hands on your hips d) touch or push the person to whom you are talking e) play with your ear, touch your chin, or smooth your hair
4. When relaxing, you sit with... a) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side b) your legs crossed c) your legs stretched out or straight d) one leg curled under you
5. When something really amuses you, you react with... a) big appreciated laugh b) a laugh, but not a loud one c) a quiet chuckle d) a sheepish smile
6. When you go to a party or social gathering you... a) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you b) make a quiet entrance, looking around for someone you know c) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay unnoticed
7. You're working very hard, concentrating hard, and you're interrupted...... a) welcome the break b) feel extremely irritated c) vary between these two extremes
8. Which of the following colors do you like most? a) Red or orange b) black c) yellow or light blue d) green e) dark blue or purple f) white g) brown or gray
9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few moments before going to sleep.... a) stretched out on your back b) stretched out face down on your stomach c) on your side, slightly curled d) with your head on one arm e) with your head under the covers
10. You often dream that you are... a) falling b) fighting or struggling c) searching for something or somebody d) flying or floating e) you usually have dreamless sleep f) your dreams are always pleasant =========================================================== POINTS FOR EACH ANSWER:
1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6
2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2 (e) 1
3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6
4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1
5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2
6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2
7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4
8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d) 4 (e) 3 (f) 2 (g) 1
9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 (d) 2 (e) 1
10. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1
Now add up the total number of points. DON'T LOOK BEYOND THIS UNTIL YOUR HAVE COMPLETED AND SCORED YOURSELF. =========================================================== OVER 60 POINTS: Others see you as someone they should "handle with care." You're seen as vain, self-centered, and who is extremely dominant. Others may admire you, wishing they could be more like you, but don't always trust you, hesitating to become too deeply involved with you.
51 TO 60 POINTS: Others see you as an exciting, highly volatile, rather impulsive personality; a natural leader, who's quick to make decisions, though not always the right ones. They see you as bold and venturesome, someone who will try anything once; someone who takes chances and enjoys an adventure. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement you radiate.
41 TO 50 POINTS: Others see you as fresh, lively, charming, amusing, practical, and always interesting; someone who's constantly in the center of attention, but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to their head. They also see you as kind, considerate, and understanding; someone who'll always cheer them up and help them out.
31 TO 40 POINTS: Others see you as sensible, cautious, careful, practical. They see you as clever, gifted, or talented, but modest. Not a person who makes friends too quickly or easily, but someone who's extremely loyal to friends you do make and who expect the same loyalty in return. Those who really get to know you realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your friends, but equally that it takes you a long time to get over it, if that trust is ever broken.
21 TO 30 POINTS: Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. They see you as very cautious, extremely careful, slow and steady; It would really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur of the moment, expecting you to examine everything carefully from every angle and then, usually decide against it. They think this reaction is caused partly by your careful nature.
UNDER 21 POINTS: People think you are shy, nervous, and indecisive, someone who needs looking after, who always wants someone else to make the decisions; who doesn't want to get involved with anyone or anything! They see you as a worrier who always sees problems that don't exist. Some people think you're boring. Only those who know you well know that you aren't.
I don't know if this test is for real or not; if its realiable, but it was fun answering the questions.
Saturday, November 06, 2004
brain teasers
Exercise of the brain is as important as exercise of the muscles.
As we grow older, it's important that we keep mentally alert. The saying; "If you don't use it, you will lose it," also applies to the brain, so.....
Below is a very private way to gauge your loss or non-loss of intelligence. Take the following test and determine if you are losing it or are still "with it."OK, relax, clear your mind and.... Begin.
1. What do you put in a toaster?
Answer: "bread." If you said "toast," then give up now and go do something else. Try not to hurt yourself. If you said, "bread," go to Question 2.
2. Say "silk" five times. Now spell "silk." What do cows drink?
Answer: Cows drink water. If you said "milk," please do not attempt the next question. Your brain is obviously over stressed and may even overheat. It may be that you need to content yourself with reading something more appropriate, such as Children's World." If you said "water," proceed to Question 3.
3. If a red house is made from red bricks, and a blue house is made from blue bricks, and a pink house is made from pink bricks and a black house is made from black bricks, what is a green house made from?
Answer: Greenhouses are made from glass. If you said, "green bricks," what the devil are you still doing reading these questions????? If you said "glass," then go on to Question 4.
4. Twenty years ago, a plane was flying at 20,000 feet over Germany. If you recall, Germany at the time was politically divided into West Germany and East Germany. Anyway, during the flight, TWO of the engines failed. The pilot, realizing that the last remaining engine is also failing, decides on a crash landing procedure. Unfortunately the third engine fails before he has time to attempt an emergency landing, and the plane crashes smack in the middle of "no man's land" between East Germany and West Germany. Where would you bury the survivors? . .. in East Germany or West Germany or in "no man's land"?
Answer: You don't, of course, bury survivors. If you said ANYTHING else, you are a real dunce and you must NEVER try to rescue anyone from a plane crash. Your efforts would not be appreciated. If you said, "Don't bury the survivors," proceed to the next question.
5. If the hour hand on a clock moves 1/60 of a degree every minute how many degrees will the hour hand move in one hour?
Answer: One degree. If you said, "360 degrees" or anything other than "one degree," you are to be congratulated on getting this far, but you are obviously out of your league. Turn in your pencil, and exit the room.
Everyone else proceed to the final question.
6. Without using a calculator-You are driving a bus from London to Milford Haven in Wales. In London, 17 people get on the bus. In Reading, six people get off the bus, and nine people get on. In Swindon, two people get off and four get on. In Cardiff, 11 people get off and 16 people get on. In Swansea, three people get off and five people get on. In Carmathen, six people get off and three get on. You then arrive at Milford Haven. What was the name of the bus driver?
Answer: Oh, for crying out loud! Don't you remember? It was YOU!!
Now, which questions were you able to answer correctly? :)
As we grow older, it's important that we keep mentally alert. The saying; "If you don't use it, you will lose it," also applies to the brain, so.....
Below is a very private way to gauge your loss or non-loss of intelligence. Take the following test and determine if you are losing it or are still "with it."OK, relax, clear your mind and.... Begin.
1. What do you put in a toaster?
Answer: "bread." If you said "toast," then give up now and go do something else. Try not to hurt yourself. If you said, "bread," go to Question 2.
2. Say "silk" five times. Now spell "silk." What do cows drink?
Answer: Cows drink water. If you said "milk," please do not attempt the next question. Your brain is obviously over stressed and may even overheat. It may be that you need to content yourself with reading something more appropriate, such as Children's World." If you said "water," proceed to Question 3.
3. If a red house is made from red bricks, and a blue house is made from blue bricks, and a pink house is made from pink bricks and a black house is made from black bricks, what is a green house made from?
Answer: Greenhouses are made from glass. If you said, "green bricks," what the devil are you still doing reading these questions????? If you said "glass," then go on to Question 4.
4. Twenty years ago, a plane was flying at 20,000 feet over Germany. If you recall, Germany at the time was politically divided into West Germany and East Germany. Anyway, during the flight, TWO of the engines failed. The pilot, realizing that the last remaining engine is also failing, decides on a crash landing procedure. Unfortunately the third engine fails before he has time to attempt an emergency landing, and the plane crashes smack in the middle of "no man's land" between East Germany and West Germany. Where would you bury the survivors? . .. in East Germany or West Germany or in "no man's land"?
Answer: You don't, of course, bury survivors. If you said ANYTHING else, you are a real dunce and you must NEVER try to rescue anyone from a plane crash. Your efforts would not be appreciated. If you said, "Don't bury the survivors," proceed to the next question.
5. If the hour hand on a clock moves 1/60 of a degree every minute how many degrees will the hour hand move in one hour?
Answer: One degree. If you said, "360 degrees" or anything other than "one degree," you are to be congratulated on getting this far, but you are obviously out of your league. Turn in your pencil, and exit the room.
Everyone else proceed to the final question.
6. Without using a calculator-You are driving a bus from London to Milford Haven in Wales. In London, 17 people get on the bus. In Reading, six people get off the bus, and nine people get on. In Swindon, two people get off and four get on. In Cardiff, 11 people get off and 16 people get on. In Swansea, three people get off and five people get on. In Carmathen, six people get off and three get on. You then arrive at Milford Haven. What was the name of the bus driver?
Answer: Oh, for crying out loud! Don't you remember? It was YOU!!
Now, which questions were you able to answer correctly? :)
Friday, November 05, 2004
state unviersity held hostage
The head might elicit a response that the state university (University of the Philippines) was held hostage by some terrorist group… this is not the case. The fate of UP and its budget for 2005 is now in the hands of the senate, in particular, it hinges on whether or not Senator Miriam Santiago goes on with her threat to block the passage of the UP charter bill. She has blamed UP officials (especially the UP law admission committee) for the suicide of her son last year.
To quote from the inquirer article:
To quote from the inquirer article:
THE FATE of a proposed new charter for the University of the Philippines now hinges on whether the state university's officials will bow to the will of one senator.
Administration Senator Miriam Defensor-Santiago has demanded that the UP surrender the names and addresses of the members of the admissions committee that denied entry to her son into the UP College of Law.
This was one of the conditions that Santiago gave for withdrawing the motion she submitted the other day asking the Senate to suspend floor deliberations on the proposed UP charter of 2004.
Santiago's son, Alexander Robert, committed suicide almost exactly a year ago, which the senator has blamed on the "UP
College of Law admission committee for school year 2003.”In a privilege speech yesterday, Santiago "[requested] strongly" that the UP divulge, before Nov. 15, the membership of the committee whom she accused of being "directly responsible for the suicide of my son Alexander” and how they came to the decision to reject her son’s application
Can you believe that? Only in the Philippines can a senator hold a University hostage for personal reasons. If the University bows to the will of a "mad woman", it will set a preceedent that will eventually snowball. It seems that in this country, it doesn't really matter that the State University seems to be going down the drain due to budget cuts, what matters most is that the good senator gets her revenge.
(to know more about UP pls log on to up.edu.ph; to read more about the article log on to www.inq7.net or get a hold of the November 4 issue of the inquirer).
Thursday, November 04, 2004
unexpected
Just when you are about to throw in the towel and give up, the unexpected happens. I was just about to call it a day when out of the blue my phone beeps and I got a text from someone I haven't heard from in quite a while. "How are you?" the text goes..."I hope that everything is ok, do you have time for dinner tonight?"
Since I have no plans for the night I accepted the invite and made plans to meet at my friend's house. Dinner was great, the conversation even better.
This got me thinking, how come, even if you haven't seen each other for weeks on end, somehow, if you truly care and love one another, you will always have time to reconnect?
Since I have no plans for the night I accepted the invite and made plans to meet at my friend's house. Dinner was great, the conversation even better.
This got me thinking, how come, even if you haven't seen each other for weeks on end, somehow, if you truly care and love one another, you will always have time to reconnect?
journey
In this journey that we call life, is it ok to go with the flow or be like a salmon and fight your way upstream?
When I read the book 'the alchemist', I was fascinated with the search for one's personal legend. I wonder, in this lifetime, will I ever find my personal legend? If so, when will it be? Will it hit me between the eye or was it under my nose all along?
Ever since I was small, I always dreamt that I would be a manager in a multi-national company making big decisions or owning a big business (I have dreamt of owning a bookstore café since I was in high school) I was an entrepreneur when I was small. In fact, I remember renting out my pocket books and selling shirts and other items for extra cash. It's different when you have your own money to spare. Somehow along the way, my entrepreneurial sprit and my dream got side tracked when I entered collage and eventually started working. Things didn’t go as planned… But like they say, life is what happens, when you are busy making plans and dreaming.
I am now past a quarter of a century (more likely close to 3 decades), but it seems that I am no way closer to my dreams. I have been so content with my comfort zone for the past years that I wasn't really welcoming the change that seemed to be apparent. I had the chance to change careers earlier this year, but I chose to remain because I felt that the offer is not for me. But as weeks turned to months, I begin to wonder, did I made the right choice? I am looking into the possibility of changing careers, hope that the only 2 jobs / vacancies that I applied to calls soon.
My life is in transition right now, not only in terms of my career but in much more personal ways. They say that the only sure thing in life is death, taxes and changes. How we deal with them is a different matter. At this point, I am welcoming change, heck; I am even praying that changes happen soon. I feel that I am in a rut, not really using / tapping into my full potentials. I pray that positive changes happen soon, in life, in my career and in love.
January isn’t that far away, the New Year might be the best time for change… meanwhile, let me go over the classifieds. :)
When I read the book 'the alchemist', I was fascinated with the search for one's personal legend. I wonder, in this lifetime, will I ever find my personal legend? If so, when will it be? Will it hit me between the eye or was it under my nose all along?
Ever since I was small, I always dreamt that I would be a manager in a multi-national company making big decisions or owning a big business (I have dreamt of owning a bookstore café since I was in high school) I was an entrepreneur when I was small. In fact, I remember renting out my pocket books and selling shirts and other items for extra cash. It's different when you have your own money to spare. Somehow along the way, my entrepreneurial sprit and my dream got side tracked when I entered collage and eventually started working. Things didn’t go as planned… But like they say, life is what happens, when you are busy making plans and dreaming.
I am now past a quarter of a century (more likely close to 3 decades), but it seems that I am no way closer to my dreams. I have been so content with my comfort zone for the past years that I wasn't really welcoming the change that seemed to be apparent. I had the chance to change careers earlier this year, but I chose to remain because I felt that the offer is not for me. But as weeks turned to months, I begin to wonder, did I made the right choice? I am looking into the possibility of changing careers, hope that the only 2 jobs / vacancies that I applied to calls soon.
My life is in transition right now, not only in terms of my career but in much more personal ways. They say that the only sure thing in life is death, taxes and changes. How we deal with them is a different matter. At this point, I am welcoming change, heck; I am even praying that changes happen soon. I feel that I am in a rut, not really using / tapping into my full potentials. I pray that positive changes happen soon, in life, in my career and in love.
January isn’t that far away, the New Year might be the best time for change… meanwhile, let me go over the classifieds. :)
Wednesday, November 03, 2004
true love
When will the waiting for the ONE be done?
Since we were little, our consciousness was filled with the notion of the princess meeting her prince charming, of knights rescuing the damsel in distress and of course of “living happily ever after”. These fairy tales are further reinforced as we get older by books, romance novels, TV shows and movies – hey, even action pictures had to spin the love angle too, the hero ALWAYS gets the girl in the end. We are continuously bombarded by this never-ending paradigm that we MUST find the love of our lives, get married and eventually settle down. But what if this NEVER happens? Will it make single life more difficult than married life? In a single’s pursuit to happiness, should it always include love and marriage?
Just this Friday, I received an invitation to a friend’s wedding, in fact this is the third or fourth wedding invitation that I got this year… hey, what’s happening? Why is everyone in a rush to get married? Is it age? Body clock? Or really finding one’s true love?
Hey, don’t get me wrong, I’m not bitter or anything like that, I just amazed at the number of my single friends that are getting married this year – a record number! I am extending my best wishes to them for finding their true love, for knowing deep in their hearts that they have found the right mate and would be with that one person for the rest of their lives. After saying “I do”, their lives will be forever changed. There will be no more spontaneous nights out with girl friends nor a impulse vacation or purchase, they will always have to confer with their “other-half” on making those decisions. They will cease to think in the pronoun “I” and start thinking as “we”, for they are not just responsible for themselves but also for the feelings and life of their mate. Boy, this truly is a BIG and LIFE ALTERING decision.
I would like to extend my best wishes to my friends who are brave enough to tie the knot and bid single life goodbye. I would like to say to them, “congrats!” on “finding the ONE” and may you live happily ever after!
For us single, I post this question: “when will our waiting be done?” Hmmm, better yet, while waiting for the one, let’s seize the day and live it to the fullest! It’s our life, our choice.
Since we were little, our consciousness was filled with the notion of the princess meeting her prince charming, of knights rescuing the damsel in distress and of course of “living happily ever after”. These fairy tales are further reinforced as we get older by books, romance novels, TV shows and movies – hey, even action pictures had to spin the love angle too, the hero ALWAYS gets the girl in the end. We are continuously bombarded by this never-ending paradigm that we MUST find the love of our lives, get married and eventually settle down. But what if this NEVER happens? Will it make single life more difficult than married life? In a single’s pursuit to happiness, should it always include love and marriage?
Just this Friday, I received an invitation to a friend’s wedding, in fact this is the third or fourth wedding invitation that I got this year… hey, what’s happening? Why is everyone in a rush to get married? Is it age? Body clock? Or really finding one’s true love?
Hey, don’t get me wrong, I’m not bitter or anything like that, I just amazed at the number of my single friends that are getting married this year – a record number! I am extending my best wishes to them for finding their true love, for knowing deep in their hearts that they have found the right mate and would be with that one person for the rest of their lives. After saying “I do”, their lives will be forever changed. There will be no more spontaneous nights out with girl friends nor a impulse vacation or purchase, they will always have to confer with their “other-half” on making those decisions. They will cease to think in the pronoun “I” and start thinking as “we”, for they are not just responsible for themselves but also for the feelings and life of their mate. Boy, this truly is a BIG and LIFE ALTERING decision.
I would like to extend my best wishes to my friends who are brave enough to tie the knot and bid single life goodbye. I would like to say to them, “congrats!” on “finding the ONE” and may you live happily ever after!
For us single, I post this question: “when will our waiting be done?” Hmmm, better yet, while waiting for the one, let’s seize the day and live it to the fullest! It’s our life, our choice.
chocolates are good for the heart!
I am NOT a doctor nor do i claim to be an expert on nutrition, but i would like to share with you what i found out regarding my favorite sweet - dark chocolate. I love the stuff! ... the darker, the better... i don't care much for milk or white chocolates but hand me a nice dark chocolate (esp. with nuts - yum yum) i will be your friend for life! :)
According to realage.com eating a small piece of dark chocolate can be good for the heart. Quoted below is one of its tip on reducing the risk of heart disease:
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According to realage.com eating a small piece of dark chocolate can be good for the heart. Quoted below is one of its tip on reducing the risk of heart disease:
Getting a daily helping of chocolate may be one of the sweetest ways to help your heart.
Research shows that eating foods that are rich in catechin antioxidants, such as dark chocolate, may lower your risk of ischemic heart disease. To keep saturated fat intake low, however, limit yourself to one piece of dark chocolate per day and supplement with other catechin-rich foods that are
low in fat, such as apples and tea.RealAge Benefit: Getting the right amount of antioxidants through diet or supplements can make your RealAge 6 years younger.
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elections
it seems that election fever is upon us the whole year...
In May, the Philppines had its Presidential election, where until the very end, it was too close to call (on who would win). The GMA camp was churning out one poll after another reflecting her victory, while the FPJ camp was also coming out with its own version of the polls. Naturally, as what happens in the Philippines, the incumbent always wins. They have the power, the machinery, the money and the people to cheat and eventually win. As expected, the FPJ camp cried foul for no one in this lovely country loses... they are always cheated. Election protest is now pending with the electoral tribunal.
A number of countries also had their own national elections... Indonesia, Afganistan, the UK, Australia, etc... but no other country is more watched and anticipated than that of the Presidential elections of the United States. Today, November 2 is D day... the day where Americans decide if they want a bully or a "flip-flop" for a leader.
For the Filipinos, will it matter who wins?
In May, the Philppines had its Presidential election, where until the very end, it was too close to call (on who would win). The GMA camp was churning out one poll after another reflecting her victory, while the FPJ camp was also coming out with its own version of the polls. Naturally, as what happens in the Philippines, the incumbent always wins. They have the power, the machinery, the money and the people to cheat and eventually win. As expected, the FPJ camp cried foul for no one in this lovely country loses... they are always cheated. Election protest is now pending with the electoral tribunal.
A number of countries also had their own national elections... Indonesia, Afganistan, the UK, Australia, etc... but no other country is more watched and anticipated than that of the Presidential elections of the United States. Today, November 2 is D day... the day where Americans decide if they want a bully or a "flip-flop" for a leader.
For the Filipinos, will it matter who wins?
Tuesday, November 02, 2004
life and death
The past weekend was a testimonial to life and love…
The first of November is traditionally the day when all roads lead to the cemetery, for families to come together to pray and reflect on the lives of those who passed away. The trek to the cemetery is no easy task… one has to brave the traffic, the endless stream of people just to get to the destination and pay respect to the departed love-one. Just getting to there is an indication of how Filipinos value family and how they show that even in death, love is indeed eternal. For it knows no bounds, as long as a person is remembered, he is loved…as long as he is loved, he is remembered.
The day is also a testimonial to life. It is a day where families get together to share and reflect on the lives of those who passed on. It is a day where families remember the dead and celebrate the continuity of life. In fact, cemeteries during these times present a fiesta atmosphere, where families share a picnic and stay the whole day or even the night in the cemetery. They bring food, drinks, and sometimes games (cards, board games, etc), the day has become one big fiesta.
In fact, this tradition of visiting the dead on November 1 and 2 is similar to the Mexican tradition / festivity “Dia de los Muertos” , which literally means “the day of the dead.” In fact, the two are so similar in nature that Mexicans might just be Filipinos who just happens to be at the other side of the world. I do think this is also influenced by the Spanish conquistadors and priest.
To quote Ricardo J Salvador on “what do Mexicans celebrate on the ‘day of the dead’?” where in he traced this festivity to Mesoamerican native tradition, he says:
He goes on to state that:
The first of November is traditionally the day when all roads lead to the cemetery, for families to come together to pray and reflect on the lives of those who passed away. The trek to the cemetery is no easy task… one has to brave the traffic, the endless stream of people just to get to the destination and pay respect to the departed love-one. Just getting to there is an indication of how Filipinos value family and how they show that even in death, love is indeed eternal. For it knows no bounds, as long as a person is remembered, he is loved…as long as he is loved, he is remembered.
The day is also a testimonial to life. It is a day where families get together to share and reflect on the lives of those who passed on. It is a day where families remember the dead and celebrate the continuity of life. In fact, cemeteries during these times present a fiesta atmosphere, where families share a picnic and stay the whole day or even the night in the cemetery. They bring food, drinks, and sometimes games (cards, board games, etc), the day has become one big fiesta.
In fact, this tradition of visiting the dead on November 1 and 2 is similar to the Mexican tradition / festivity “Dia de los Muertos” , which literally means “the day of the dead.” In fact, the two are so similar in nature that Mexicans might just be Filipinos who just happens to be at the other side of the world. I do think this is also influenced by the Spanish conquistadors and priest.
To quote Ricardo J Salvador on “what do Mexicans celebrate on the ‘day of the dead’?” where in he traced this festivity to Mesoamerican native tradition, he says:
The original celebration can be traced to many Mesoamerican native traditions, such as the festivities held during the Aztec month of Miccailhuitontli, ritually presided by the "Lady of the dead" (Mictecacihuatl), and dedicated to children and the dead. In the Aztec calendar, this ritual fell roughly at the end of the Gregorian month of July and the beginning of August, but in the postconquest era it was moved by Spanish priests so that it coincided with the Christian holiday of All Hallows Eve (in Spanish: "Día de Todos Santos.") This was a vain effort to transform the observance from a profane to a Christian celebration. The result is that Mexicans now celebrate the day of the dead during the first two days of November, rather than at the beginning of summer. But remember the dead they still do, and the modern festivity is characterized by the traditional Mexican blend of ancient aboriginal and introduced Christian features.
He goes on to state that:
Generalizing broadly, the holiday's activities consist of families (1) welcoming their dead back into their homes, and (2) visiting the graves of their close kin. At the cemetery, family members engage in sprucing up the gravesite, decorating it with flowers, setting out and enjoying a picnic, and interacting socially with other family and community members who gather there. In both cases, celebrants believe that the souls of the dead return and are all around them. Families remember the departed by telling stories about them. The meals prepared for these picnics are sumptuous, usually featuring meat dishes in spicy sauces, chocolate beverages, cookies, sugary confections in a variety of animal or skull shapes, and a special egg-batter bread ("pan de muerto," or bread of the dead). Gravesites and family altars are profusely decorated with flowers (primarily large, bright flowers such as marigolds and chrysanthemums), and adorned with religious amulets and with offerings of food, cigarettes and alcoholic beverages. Because of this warm social environment, the colorful setting, and the abundance of food, drink and good company, this commemoration of the dead has pleasant overtones for the observers, in spite of the open fatalism exhibited by all participants, whose festive interaction with both the living and the dead in an important social ritual is a way of recognizing the cycle of life and death that is human existence.I find this information fascinating as it is also what is seen during November 1 (All Saints Day) and November 2 (All Souls Day) in the Philippines. The above mentioned Mexican traditions are very much alive in my country. People still trek to the cemeteries, offer prayer, have a picnic and celebrate life and love no matter how hard it takes to get to there, no matter how hard life has become. All Saint’s Day and All Souls Day has been, is and will forever be the day where Filipinos remember those who came before them and will be meeting in the end.
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